If your baby is
not sleeping well during her first few months of
life, you may want to try to cut back on the time she is
awake by 15 minute increments. If your
baby is getting overstimulated, then she will fight
sleep and be difficult to get to nap. The way to
prevent this is to watch her “sleepy” cues to make sure
that you put her down when she is beginning to get
sleepy.
Some parents believe that letting their child
cry will harm him or her. Fifteen or twenty minutes of
crying will not harm your child physically or
mentally. Babies will learn to self-soothe and fall asleep
by themselves, but only if you let her. It is very
important that babies learn to fall asleep by themselves so
that they can self-soothe if they awake in the middle of the
night. Otherwise, you may have a child that will not sleep
through the night for years.
Regular sleep patterns are interconnected
with regular eating patterns, so let us look at the stages of a
baby’s life:
* Newborn: Your newborn will sleep
anywhere from 16 to 20 hours a day, including the naps that he
takes between feedings. When your baby has been fed, let
him stay awake for a short while and then put him down before
he becomes overstimulated.
* Two months: At two months and older,
your child should be allowed to try to self-soothe during their
naptimes and bedtime. Crying is normal when you put your
baby down, but it is okay. If he cries for longer than 10-15
minutes, then go in and check on him. Don’t get him up,
but pat his bottom or lightly rub his back until he calms
down.
* 3-6 months: At around 3-6 months, your
baby will stop taking one of his naps. Usually it is the
third nap or late afternoon nap that they do not need as
much. He may be a little fussy and may want to take a
little nap, but you need to try to keep him up if you want him
to go to bed at a decent time and sleep soundly through the
night.
* 16+ months: When your child is between
16-20 months, they usually quit taking the morning nap in favor
of a longer nap in the afternoons. Babies this age usually
sleep between 10-12 hours a night and take a 2-3 hour afternoon
nap.
Ground Rules about
Naps
1. You decide when the nap starts and ends, not
the baby.
2. When your baby is older than 4 months old,
she will wake up crying if she hasn’t slept enough. She
might have a dirty diaper, be in a position that is not
comfortable, or cold/hot. Fix the problem and encourage her to
go back to sleep. Babies that have enough rest wake up
happy, talking, and in a good mood.