The majority of toddlers engage in some
biting between their first and third birthdays. Probably
the most common reason is that it is one of the few ways
of communicating that's effective for them, before verbal
skills are developed. However, not all children bite. Some
choose other forms of communication, such as grabbing,
shoving, or punching.
Another reason toddlers bite is to express frustration, a
feeling which is very common with toddlers, because both their
communication skills and their motor skills are so limited.
To a young toddler it can be funny to see mommy suddenly bolt
upright or for a playmate to start crying. Toddlers may also
bite because they're teething or because they put everything in
their mouths anyway, so why not someone's arm? It could even be
something as simple as hunger.
But how do you teach your child not to bite?
Make it perfectly clear that the biting is hurtful and wrong
and point out to your child how much pain their biting has
caused. Express that biting is wrong and unacceptable and
that neither mommy or daddy like it.
If you discover that your child is biting out of frustration,
try giving them an alternative to express to people they are
having a difficult time. Though language is a difficult task at
this age, most toddlers can be taught words that are
appropriate for such a situation. For instance, "You need
to tell mommy or daddy that you need help and not bite us," or
"Show mommy what you need, but don't bite. You'll hurt
her if you bite and I know you don't want to hurt mommy, do
you?"
Experts agree that parents should try not to
give biting so much attention that it becomes an
attention-getter. This is true of all behavior that you don't
want to see repeated. Firmly tell the child again that
there is no biting allowed, that it is wrong, and that it hurts
people.