When your baby has stopped breast feeding and
gets all of his nutrition from other sources than the breast,
he's actually considered weaned. Even though babies are also
weaned from the bottle as well, the term weaning often refers
to when a baby is stopped from breast feeding.
When weaning is a mother's idea, it normally
requires a lot of patience and can take time, depending on the
age of your baby or toddler, and also how well your child
adjusts. The overall experience is different for
everyone.
Weaning is a long goodbye, sometimes emotional
and sometimes painful. It doesn't however, signal for the
end to the intimacy you and your child have developed during
the nursing stage. What it means, is that you have to
replace breast feeding with other types of
nourishment.
Starting weaning
Your the best judge as to when it's the right
time to wean, and you don't really have a deadline unless you
and your child are actually ready to wean. The recommended
time for weaning is one year. No matter what relatives,
friends, or even complete strangers tell you, there is no
right or wrong time for weaning.
How to wean
You should proceed slowly, regardless of what
the age of your child may be. Experts say that you
shouldn't abruptly withhold your breast, as they results can be
traumatic. You should however, try these methods
instead:
1. Skip a feeding - Skip a feeding and see
what happens, offering a cup of milk to your baby
instead. As a substitue, you can use a bottle of your own
pumped milk, formula, or a cow's milk. If you reduce
feedings one at a time, your child will eventually adjust to
the changes.
2. Shorten feeding time - You can start by
cutting the length of time your child is actually at the
breast. If the normal feeding time is 5 minuts, try
3. Depending on the age, follow the feeding with a healthy
snack. Bed time feedings are usually the hardest to wean,
as they are normally the last to go.
3. Postpone and distract - You can
postpone feedings if you are only feeding a couple of times per
day. This method works great if you have an older child
you can actually reason with. If your child wants the
breast, say that you'll feed later then distract him.
If you've tried everything and weaning doesn't
seem to be working at all, maybe the time just isn't
right. You can wait just a bit longer to see what happens,
as your child and you have to determine the right time to wean
together.